Romanticizing Consistency: How to Fall in Love With Your Daily Life

I’ve talked about this with my clients, my girls, and now I’m sharing it with you.

Life as a first-gen trailblazer can feel like a constant balancing act—juggling work, family expectations, personal growth, and just trying to take care of yourself without feeling like you're failing in some area. Consistency can feel hard.

But what if I told you that consistency doesn’t have to feel like a chore? What if, instead of forcing yourself into rigid routines, you learned to flow with your energy and romanticize the process? Because the life you want isn’t built in one big moment—it’s built in the small, intentional choices you make every single day.

And when you learn to fall in love with those moments? Everything shifts.

Why We Struggle With Consistency

A lot of us weren’t taught how to build sustainable habits. Instead, we were taught that consistency means grinding through, even when it doesn’t feel good. But consistency isn’t about perfection—it’s about showing up in ways that actually work for you.

Most of us don’t struggle with consistency because we’re lazy. We struggle because we don’t have systems that honor our energy levels, life responsibilities, and mental capacity.

That’s where an energy-focused routine comes in.

Building Energy-Focused Routines: The Key to Long-Term Consistency

Some days, you wake up feeling like you could run a marathon. Other days, you’re just trying to make it through the first hour without shutting down. That’s normal. The key is to build routines that shift with your energy instead of fighting against it.

Here’s how I break mine down:

Bare Minimum Routine (Low Energy Days)

For those days when even getting out of bed feels like a lot:
✔ Brush your teeth, wash your face, and hydrate.
✔ Put on something comfy.
✔ Eat something small—even if it’s just fruit or a smoothie.
✔ Move lightly—stretch in bed if that’s all you have in you.

Goal: Keep yourself afloat without guilt.

Realistic Routine (Average Energy Days)

When you’re feeling okay but not at 100%:
✔ Add in light movement—10-minute walk, stretching, or yoga.
✔ Have a balanced meal.
✔ Do a short journaling or gratitude practice.
✔ Plan out your top 3 priorities for the day.

Goal: Maintain progress without overwhelming yourself.

Ideal Routine (High Energy Days)

When you wake up ready to take on the world:
✔ Full morning routine—movement, journaling, meditation.
✔ Meal-prep or cook something nourishing.
✔ Deep focus on work or creative projects.
✔ Connect with yourself—mirror work, self-reflection, goal check-in.

Goal: Maximize productivity without burnout.

The beauty of this system? It allows you to flow with your energy instead of fighting it.

Romanticizing Consistency in Your Daily Life

Once you’ve built an energy-based routine, the next step is learning to romanticize it. When you enjoy something, you’re naturally more consistent.

Here’s how I make my daily habits feel good:

1. Make Your Routine Feel Like a Ritual

If something feels like a chore, you’ll resist it. Instead, make it something you look forward to:

• Light a candle while journaling.

• Play music while planning your week.

• Make your skincare routine feel like a spa moment.

• Romanticize your morning coffee or tea—sit by the window, sip slow, breathe deep.

It’s not about aesthetics—it’s about making your routines intentional.

2. Create a System That Works for You

I used to struggle with staying consistent—not because I wasn’t trying, but because I didn’t have a system that actually supported me.

That’s why I created my digital planner bundle, which has been a game-changer in keeping me grounded. It includes:
✔ A 2025 Planner for goal-setting, scheduling, and tracking progress.
✔ A Self-Care Planner to ensure I’m prioritizing me, not just work.
✔ Meal Planning & Habit Tracking Tools to make consistency easier.

I needed something that didn’t just dump to-do lists on me but actually made my life flow. And when I started using a planner that worked for me instead of against me? Everything changed.

If you’re looking for a tool to help you stay on track without the overwhelm, you can check it out [insert link]. But whether it’s my planner or something else, having a system is key.

3. Stack Habits With Things You Already Enjoy

If you struggle with remembering to do something, attach it to something you already do:

• Stretch while watching Netflix.

• Listen to a podcast while commuting.

• Do skincare while playing your favorite playlist.

The less friction, the easier consistency becomes.

4. Track Progress in a Way That Feels Good

We don’t give ourselves enough credit. Sometimes, the only way to see your growth is to document it:

• Keep a simple checklist or habit tracker.

• Journal about small wins each week.

• Update your vision board as you hit milestones.

When you start celebrating your progress, consistency stops feeling like work and starts feeling rewarding.

The Challenge: Romanticize Your Routine With Me! (Giveaway Included)

Let’s put this into practice together. This week, I’m challenging all of us to romanticize one part of our routine and make it feel good. Whether it’s your morning coffee, your skincare, your journaling time—whatever it is, I want you to romanticize it and share it.

Here’s how to join:
Pick one daily habit and find a way to make it feel special.
Capture a moment of it—take a photo, a video, or write about it.
Post it on Instagram or TikTok and tag me [@yourhandle] with the hashtag #ADoseOfConsistency so I can see and share!

I’m giving away a FREE digital planner bundle!
I’ll be choosing one person who participates and embodies this challenge to receive my full Ultimate Digital Planner Bundle for free!

The goal isn’t perfection—it’s intention. Let’s build consistency in a way that feels good, together.

The Takeaway: Flexibility, Compassion, and Progress

Building routines that respect your energy and goals isn’t about being rigid. It’s about showing yourself love, even when things feel messy. Some days, you’re riding the wave. Other days, you’re just floating.

Either way, as long as you keep moving forward, you’re winning.

So tell me—what’s one small thing you’re choosing to romanticize this week? And don’t forget to tag me in your posts with #ADoseOfConsistency so I can celebrate your journey!

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