Writing a Letter to Yourself: A Tool for Reflection, Self-Love, and Growth
Surprise! I’m adding an extra blog post this week—because as we wrap up the first month of the year, I want us to take a collective pause. A moment to reflect. A moment to acknowledge where we’ve been, where we are, and where we’re going.
January can feel like a blur—so much pressure to start strong, set goals, and “get it together.” But before we rush ahead, let’s do something different.
This week, I want us to write a letter to ourselves.
Not just any letter—a love letter to the woman you were, the woman you are, and the woman you’re becoming.
Because every version of you deserves to be acknowledged.
Why Writing a Letter to Yourself is So Powerful
We spend so much time focused on what’s next that we rarely pause to honor where we’ve been.
A letter to yourself allows you to:
Acknowledge your growth. The struggles you’ve overcome, the lessons you’ve learned, the ways you’ve changed.
Practice self-compassion. Instead of criticizing yourself, this is a chance to love yourself through every season.
Set intentions for the future. To remind your future self that she is capable, worthy, and constantly evolving.
It’s a grounding practice—one that can help you see yourself more clearly, with more kindness, and with more hope.
How to Write Your Letter
If this feels unfamiliar, don’t overthink it. Just start.
Grab a journal, your Notes app, or a piece of paper, and write three sections:
1. To the Woman You Were—Give Her Love
Think about your past self. Maybe she was struggling, maybe she was hopeful, maybe she didn’t know how strong she really was.
Write to her like you would a younger sister or a best friend.
What do you want to thank her for?
What lessons did she teach you?
How do you feel about her now that you’re on the other side?
Example: “To the woman I was—I love you. You didn’t always get it right, but you never gave up on me. Thank you for your strength, your resilience, and for believing in a future that you couldn’t yet see.”
2. To the Woman You Are—Tell Her You’re Proud
You are standing in moments that past you dreamed of. Acknowledge that.
What have you accomplished that your past self never thought possible?
How are you showing up differently now?
What do you love about the woman you are today?
Example: “To the woman I am—I’m proud of you. You are setting boundaries, speaking up for yourself, and choosing joy in ways you never have before. You are showing up, even when it’s hard. That matters.”
3. To the Woman You’re Becoming—Get Excited for Her
This is your space to dream. To trust that your future self will be okay because of the choices you’re making now.
What are you manifesting for her?
What do you want her to remember?
What kind of energy do you want her to move with?
Example: “To the woman I will be—I can’t wait to meet you. You are confident, abundant, and full of ease. You trust yourself fully. I am doing my best to set you up for everything you deserve.”
The Challenge: Write Your Letter & Reflect This Week
This isn’t just a journaling exercise—it’s a moment to connect with yourself in a deeper way.
Here’s how to join the challenge:
Write your letter. It can be as short or as long as you want—just be honest with yourself.
Take a moment to reflect. Read it out loud, sit with it, feel what comes up.
If you feel called, share a part of your letter on social media and tag me [@yourhandle] with the hashtag #ADoseOfReflection. You can also share in the comments!
I’ll be choosing one person who participates and embodies this challenge to receive my full Ultimate Digital Planner Bundle for free!
You’re not alone in this, later this week, I’ll be sharing my own letter. But for now, this is your time. Your space. Your moment to honor yourself.
Because the woman you were, the woman you are, and the woman you’re becoming? She deserves to be seen. She deserves to be loved.
So take a breath. Pick up your pen. And write to her. I can’t wait to see what comes up for you.
Why This Matters Right Now
As we step out of the first month of the year, this is the perfect time to reflect—not with pressure, but with love.
Too often, we only check in on ourselves when we feel behind. But growth isn’t just about what’s next. It’s about pausing to honor how far you’ve already come.
So whether this month went exactly as planned or felt like a blur, this practice is for you. To ground yourself. To love yourself. To realign with what matters.
Because no matter where you are in your journey, every version of you is worth celebrating.
